Guys, Are you Worried About Meeting Your Online Date for the First Time?

If you were nervous the day you created your online dating profile, if sending the initial message to the first woman you liked filled you with anxiety and if sending your first online dating instant message made your hands all sweaty, then you might be a tad amped up for your first offline meeting. Meeting a woman that you just met on an online dating site for the first time in a real offline setting can be nerve racking, but it doesn’t have to be. Here are a few tips to make the first offline date a breeze (and possibly even fun).

1. Leave Your Baggage Behind

If you have had horrible dates in the past or if you have any negative connotations related to dating, throw them away. If you want to have a successful first date, you had better clear your mind of any negativity and pledge to yourself that you’re going to have a great time no matter what.

2. Watch, Listen to Or Read Something Funny

Right before you meet your date for the first time, watch a funny video, listen to a funny podcast or read a funny story. Laughter will fill your body with endorphins, which will help you have fun, set your date at ease and ensure a good evening for both of you.

3. Plan an Interesting and Fun Date

If you want to maximize your chances of having a successful first date, have the date planned out beforehand. Plan interesting things to see and do. Hopefully you’ve done a little digging beforehand to ensure that you choose an activity you both will like. Planning a day at the petting zoo when she has animal allergies would be a no-no, for instance. Planning a day at the amusement park when she loves roller coasters, on the other hand, would be a far better choice.

4. Learn How to Talk To and Treat Women Properly

If you don’t have a lot of confidence around women and you consider yourself shy, you have to realize that she’s probably nervous, too. She’s probably also shy. You need to have the confidence to set her at ease. Yet if she’s confident and you’re not, she may walk all over you. Developing confidence with women is easy. To help be more successful with women, watch this video and learn a few persuasion techniques. They work like magic.

5. Have an Exit Plan

Some dates are destined to fail. You may find a woman that you totally fall for online, but then you meet her offline and you can’t wait to get away. Sometimes, two people are better spent apart. For situations just like these, have a contingency in plan. Having a friend call you with an emergency about twenty minutes into the date is always a good go-to. Having an exit plan in place will save you from having to endure a date from hell when there’s never a reason to do so. Life is too short. Dating should be fun or it shouldn’t be done at all.

Men Who Want Online Dating Success Should Ask for the Phone Number Quickly

Many men mistakenly think that the goal of online dating is to get a woman to message you back or to get into a back-and-forth communication with one or more women. Sure, that’s the immediate goal, but it’s not the ultimate goal. The ultimate goal for all men should be to go from online dating to a real actual offline date rather quickly; and the best way to do that is to ask for the phone number as soon as possible.

Be the Ultimate Online Date to Increase Your Chances of Dating Offline

First, let’s break down what most women are looking for when they sign up with one or more online dating sites. Most women, like most users of online dating sites, have high hopes when they first sign up. Then they go through the pool of available dates and soon realize that they’re going to have to lower their standards a little bit. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s good. It means that they will be more open to accepting many guys as potential dates as opposed to just one or two. This happens to most women, according to studies and online posts made by women who have gone through this exact phenomenon.

This leads most women, after failing to find their knight in shining armor – and let’s face it, that man just does not exist – and after they’ve gone through the initial disappointment phase, to begin looking for a man, any man, who exhibits the following characteristics.

- Ambitious or at least employed.

      - Drives his own car
      - Fun to be around.
- Not a shut-in and has a social life.

You can exhibit the above characteristics using your profile and the online dating photos that you choose to show off to potential dates. Even if you are a shut-in with no friends and even if you drive your parents’ car everywhere you go, at least make her think that you exhibit the above characteristics. It can all come out during the first date, which by that time, she’ll most likely be willing to overlook your downsides, since she’ll already be emotionally invested.

That Being Said – Always Ask for the Phone Number Early On

If you have done well with your profile, your photos and your online dating messaging tactics, you will already have her on the hook. All you have to do is ask for the phone number. Tell her that you want to take her out, and you might even mention a place that you have in mind. Be different, be fun and ask for the number right away if you want more online dating success.

What do you do after she gives you the number? You call her up and continue the conversation you were having online, but only briefly. The idea, when you finally do call her, is to schedule the date quickly. Or keep talking if you find that there’s rapport. Feel her out. If you feel yourself slipping, schedule the date and end the call. If things are going well, keep her on the hook. The more you talk, the more of an emotional connection will form and that’s when you’ll have her just where you want her.

Next time, we will cover what to do when you meet her in person to make her fall for you every time.

Guys, Start Sending Online Dating Messages That Get Responses Every Time

Of all the parts that make up the typical online dating site and all the processes that it takes to go from profile creation to an actual real-life date at an offline location, sending the very first online dating message is - by far - the aspect that most guys completely screw up the most.  Most guys send messages that consist of, “Hey,” and “What’s up?” Then there’s the most intriguing message of all, “I want to [Insert Dirty Word] you.” While those are compelling messages, they’re not going to stand apart amidst all the other messages in the typical woman’s inbox. Most women merely have to make a profile to have their inbox fill up with messages from willing men. For men, it’s not that easy. That is why, as a man, you need to learn the tricks of the trade for messaging women when you want more attention and more responses from every hot number you see.

If You Want These Tips to Work

Before you set off on a conquest to see how many phone numbers you can snag, and how many offline dates you can schedule, make the following true if you want these tips to work.

1. You have spent time choosing online dating photos that show you in your best light.

2. You have chosen a dating headline that intrigues and possibly makes her laugh.

3. You have written your online dating profile so that it sells your best aspects and leaves the concept of your ideal woman wide open.

Put These Dating Message Tips to Use the Moment Her Profile Catches Your Eye

1. Gather Intel and Launch and Offensive - Read her profile and, using that information, try to come up with a question that will get her talking about herself. You might ask about one of her hobbies, or about her job. Ask relevant questions and keep them coming. The goal is to get a back-and-forth communication started. When you have her on the hook, that's when you'll want to ask for the phone number right away.

2. Snipe her with an IM – This form of communication, which most online dating sites offer, is far superior to email, because it requires her to focus her attention solely on you. Sure, she may be speaking to other guys simultaneously via instant message, but that’s why you need to use the following tip to get her focused completely on you.

First, ask her questions about herself using information that you learned by reading her profile. Try to dig deep and ask questions that most people might not think about offhand. Ask questions that force her to think, but keep things light. If she begins taking too long to answer your IMs, such as more than a few minutes, call her on spending time with other guys. Act jealous, but just pretend. Let her know you’re kidding. Get her laughing. Then, ask for the number.

3. Riddles and/or Jokes – Find a good riddle or joke and send the first part as the subject line. This is a great way to stand out and it also has the added benefit of making her laugh, which will practically make you a shoo-in for a return response. As soon as you release the answer to the riddle or the punch-line, ask her questions about her profile, like above, and then ask for the number.

A Quick Warning About Using Humor

Humor is like a joker card that you can play when you might otherwise have nothing in common with a woman. Humor trumps all, even looks and money. There are statistics on that fact. Look them up. The point is, humor works, but it can also backfire. The woman may have delicate sensitivities and you might offend her. If that happens, just move on. There are plenty of other women - and online dating sites - that you can pursue.

These three tips, as long as you’ve followed the three tips above those, will help you get more return responses and offline dates, guaranteed. What happens when you get the number? That’s for next time.

Online Dating Profile Help for Men

Online dating is easy, until you’re asked to fill in your profile – your About Me, your Ideal Date, your income, height, and the other questions you’re expected to answer when signing up with most dating sites. Most people dread this part and for good reason. It’s hard to talk about yourself. More than that, it’s hard to boast about yourself in the hopes that multiple women will see your greatness and message you to ultimately meet you in person. Online dating is hard enough on most guys (though it doesn’t have to be), but writing about what they want and don’t want and who they are can be downright excruciating. In order to create a profile that allows you to choose the women you want to talk to and meet, and not the other way around, follow this advice.

1. Leave Your Baggage Behind: Do not bring up past relationships or the times you were dumped. Just don’t bring up the past at all. It’s best to write your profile with happier times ahead in mind.

2. Be Funny: Nothing breaks the ice like humor. If you can manage to be funny while describing and selling yourself, you’ll win out over all the other guys who take themselves way too seriously.

3. Sell Yourself: It may be hard to write about yourself, but you’re going to have to get over it if you want to be successful at online dating. Sell yourself. Act like you’re applying for a job. Don’t bring up any of your faults or try to downplay them. Just don’t mention them at all. Don’t boast and be a braggart, but do write a profile that shows you in the best light possible.

4. What Do You Do? Most women want to know that you have goals and ambitions. List these in your profile, but only briefly and if possible try to beat around the bush to make potential dates guess what you’re into or what your job is. This is a great way to get women to message you the first time around.

5. Your Ideal Date: When asked to describe your ideal date, don’t be too specific. Just say that you want someone thoughtful, caring, someone who is able to laugh – you know, general stuff that sounds like you want a real woman who’s got a lot going on and who is also looking for that special someone. Sure, that Ideal Date description could describe any woman on any online dating site, and that’s the point. You want to be able to attract any woman you see, because the idea is for YOU to be able to choose who to go out with, not the other way around.

6. End with a question: A good trick to use is to end your profile with an intriguing question in order to get more women to message you first. This trick will work especially well if you’ve already incorporated the other tips on this page.

Summary: When writing your online profile, guys, leave the past out of it and leave your faults for the third or subsequent offline date. Right now your job is to sell yourself and try to be funny if at all possible. Describe what you tend to focus on or what you ‘do’ on a daily basis and leave your ideal date description generalized to increase your chances for love. Finally, leave a question at the end to get more women to message you first. What you should do after that is for another time.

The Art of Online Dating Photos for Men Who Want to be Successful at Online Dating

You want to be successful at online dating, do ya? Then why do you insist on uploading your profile with dark, dingy photos that don’t necessarily show you at your best? That’s like fishing with a live mouse. Sure, something big enough might come along and think it’s delicious, but wouldn’t you rather use enticing bait that brings the premium fish? In other words, if you want to find online love, you need to use high-quality photos that always show you at your best.

Don’t use too few and don’t use too many. All it takes is one bad photo for a woman to completely pass you over. Think that’s a shallow way to date? Get over it. That’s reality. We live in a shallow society and physical appearances are important, especially when it comes to online dating. The bottom line is that if you want to succeed, you’ll follow the below advice and just see if it works. You’ll be pleasantly surprised.

All Men Need These Four Online Dating Photos

      1. A well-dressed full body photo of you having fun indoors with other people.

That photo of you lounging on the couch after a hard day’s work, because that’s usually when you find yourself online dating, is cute, but it’s not the best you can do. Pretend you’re trying to get a good job and you’re dressing up for a job interview. Put your best clothes on or take advantage of a time when you are dressed up and have someone take a full body photo of you indoors having fun with other people. This shows that you’re not a loner weirdo, even though you may be one, and it shows that you’re not a complete slob.

If you don’t have anyone to take a photo with, visit a restaurant on a Friday or Saturday night when you see that there is a waiting list. There are usually people sitting in the entryway and they’re usually well-dressed. Ask them to take a photo of you, but don’t pose for it. Just sit between them and have them take a photo. Most people will oblige, especially if you offer them five or ten bucks. It sounds desperate, but what’s the alternative? Do you want online love or do you want to keep doing what you’re doing?

      2. An outdoor pic of you laughing or smiling.

This can depict other people, but it’s not necessary. It should show you outdoors having fun. That’s it. Outdoors is important because it shows that you like to get outdoors every now and again and the smiling or laughing part is to show that you’re not a serial killer, even though you may be one.

You don’t have to be dressed up for this, but choose your best relaxed clothing for the outdoor photo. Don’t be afraid to buy a new outfit that shows off your best features. Don’t worry, the expense will soon pay off.

      3. An indoor action pic – you doing something.

Whereas the other photos can be taken with you facing the camera, this photo should be of your full body and should show you in the act of doing something that requires your concentration.

It’s preferable that you don’t involve a computer, tablet or smartphone. Find a hobby or read a book or write a letter and have someone take a photo. This shows that you’re thoughtful and that you are a man that takes action and doesn’t spend all day online, even if none of those things are true.

     4. A full face smiling pic that will act as your primary photo – make it a good one (Get a professional to help you).

If you have the means to have professional photos taken, do this so that you have a great profile photo to beat out the competition. A professional will know how to use light, colors and photography tricks to make your profile photo truly stand out.

If you have Photoshop or Gimp, don’t be afraid to use them to doctor your photos. Don’t completely lie, but it’s ok to make your photo look it’s best before you post it online. After all, there’s a good chance the woman you choose will have makeup on during your first encounter. Isn’t that lying?

As far as you should be concerned, doctoring your photo is no different than wearing lipstick, foundation and hair extensions. This is online dating and you should be doing everything you can to snag the woman of your dreams. Sometimes a little doctoring can help you do just that.

With these four photos, and no others – leave your shirtless photos or the photos of you holding dead animal heads after a successful hunt for the first offline date – you will have more online dates, guaranteed.

Online dating success isn’t all about the photo, but the photos you choose can make or break your profile, that’s a fact. Select the right ones and your inbox will fill up before you know it.

Calling All Dateless Men - 5 Tips That Will Guarantee You An Online Date

Are you struggling to find a date online? If so, then guys, you’re totally doing it wrong. If you are like most men, you are making online dating way harder than it needs to be. Try to think more simply. No, in fact, stop thinking. Just follow these five tips and you’ll have an online date by Friday night, guaranteed.

1. Sign Up for Multiple Online Dating Sites Simultaneously

If you just sign up with one online dating site, you only have small pool of women to choose from. Why limit yourself? Sign up with several online dating sites and start stacking your online love finding deck!

Here is a small list of online dating sites to try:

• Plenty of Fish – Popular and Free
•  Ok Cupid – Also Popular and Free
•  Match.com – Small Online Dating Fee
•  Eharmony – Small Online Dating Fee
• Zoosk – Small Online Dating Fee

2. Use Humor in Your Dating Profile

From your online dating Headline to your About Me to your Ideal Online Date, try your best to elicit a laugh from anyone who may view it. Humor is an instant ice breaker. Even cheesy can work in certain situations. Don’t go overboard, but be sly, witty if you can and humorous and you’ll have more online dates than you know what to do with.

3. Choose Your Online Dating Photo Wisely

A woman viewing your profile will take one look at your headline and then your photo. If your photo fails to impress, the viewer will be on to the next profile to catch her eye. Make sure your photo shows you in your best light – always. Every photo should be your best one if you want to maximize your chances. You do not need to look like Brad Pitt, you don’t have to be the pinnacle of fitness, but you do need to look presentable in your photos.

If possible, come up with the following photos to maximize your chances.

        

• A well-dressed full body photo of you having fun indoors with other people. 
• An outdoor pic of you laughing or smiling. 
• An indoor action pic – you doing something 
• A full face smiling pic that will act as your primary photo – make it a good one (Get a professional to help you).

4. Get Her Talking About Herself

As the man, your job is to get the woman emotionally invested in you. If you have your sights set on a woman, read her profile to get intel you can use in your initial message to her. Use something you read about in her profile to get her talking about herself. Pick a hobby of hers, her job or something else she’s written about and ask her about it. Ask in-depth questions and try to keep the conversation flowing.

Bonus Tip: If you can get her to laugh at the same time, you’re golden.

5. Get the Number Quickly

The reason online dating is so easy is because all you have to do is get the woman’s phone number and you’re in. Choose a witty or funny headline, choose excellent photos of yourself, get the woman talking about herself and then ask for the number. Once you have that, you’re practically there. You simply call the woman on the phone, establish a connection and ask her on a date. Wham, bam, it’s that easy.

How do you establish a connection with a woman over the phone? That’s for next time.